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12.31.2008  BY EM & LO
We've Moved!

It's the new year and we have a brand new shiny url to replace DailyBedpost.com: it's . Be sure to follow us over there for more sex- & relationship-related advice, horoscopes, product reviews, how You Effect to's and general enthusiastic encouragement for your love lives every day. (This site will no longer be updated so it's gonna get lonely round here real quick. The good Dr. Kate will be over at.
12.31.2008  BY EM & LO
The Best of Daily Bedpost 2008

1. Advice: Help, My Friend Says I Have an Ugly Vagina!

2. How To...Talk Dirty Without Feeling Like an Ass

3. Top 10 Things You Never Want to Hear After a First Kiss

4. Top 50 Sex Myths

5. How To...Master the Coital Aligment Technique (with supplemental info from the discoverer of the CAT).

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7. Advice: How Can I Speed Up My Orgasm?

8. How NOT to... Kiss (in 20 Steps)

9. (Almost) Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About HPV

10. How to...Booty Call with Aplomb (in 25 Steps)

11. Man-Handled: What To Do Stripchat with Male Nipples?

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13. Advice: Do I Have to Tell a Guy That I'm a Virgin?

14. Is Text Sex Cheating? You Decide.

15. Advice: My Boyfriend's Hung Like a Horse... Help!
12.30.2008  BY DR. KATE
New Year's Body Resolutions
Consider adding one of these to your resolutions for 2009.

  • I resolve to get a GYN exam--and if I don't like my gyno, I'll find a new one.
  • I resolve to stick to a "no glove, no love" policy, and stock up on the condoms myself.
  • I resolve to love LocalHookups.org my labia, no matter what they look like.
  • I resolve to wean myself from Brazilian waxes, and save some money while I'm at it.
  • I resolve to ask my gyno about the HPV vaccine, since it's only covered by insurance till I'm 26 years old.
  • I resolve to visit to keep learning how to stay sexually healthy.
Have a wonderful and safe New Year's Eve, and I hope to see you all at Gynotalk.

12.30.2008  BY EM & LO
Man-Handled: Is There Such a Thing as Too Much Cleavage?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the question, Is there such a thing as too much cleavage?

Straight Married Guy (): I suppose if I thought about it, I could come up with some mythical creature that has so much cleavage that reading colorful books about its horrible adventures scarred me when I was a kid. Or maybe, there's some far-away land www.x-fucker.com/jerkmate-review populated only by women who all wear push-up bras and Oscar gowns, and if I lived there my entire life, then maybe on the day before I died, I would walk down the street and finally, for once, not be psyched by every single breast, every single millimeter of exposed flesh, every single hinted-at curve and every single erect nipple and think, "You know, enough is enough." But actually, no. No. There's no such thing as too much cleavage.

Gay Committed Guy (Mark): I think it's absolutely up to the woman who's cleaving.  If she's comfortable showing a CompareDatingSiteReviews.com lot, why not--although it might be worth taking the venue and audience into account (some workplaces still have dress codes, right?).  Last year I was at a funeral where the deceased's daughter wore a very low-cut dress.  I thought it was a weirdly empowering gesture, but not everyone was amused.

Straight Single Guy (Colin): Is there such a thing as too much chocolate? Too much Shakespeare? Too much fine wine? Men are all connoisseurs of cleavage. To us it's one of the greatest pleasures of life and it should be treated as such. There can only be too much when it's done in a tacky or tasteless way. But on second thought, we always like a greasy burger or a weak beer so don't be afraid to bare some side boob, under boob or even rock a Lil' Kim pasty if the occasion calls for it.

Our "guys" are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week's Straight Single Guy is our former uber-intern, Colin Adamo, and our Straight Married Guy is , a writer and artist living in Los Angeles--check out his new website, . Our committed gay guy, Mark, is a writer and teacher in NYC who asked us to file him under "shy."
12.29.2008  BY EM & LO
Sex Dream Analysis: "It's Like I'm in a Perfume Commercial"

Very rarely are other people's dreams interesting...except when they're about sex. This week dream analyst tackles this gauzy one:

I keep having this dream of myself with a gentleman standing in front of a window. It's evening with a slight breeze that gently moves the sheer curtains, there is very soft music playing, we're facing each other and in one dream it looks like we are just looking into each others' eyes, no words. Then once we are slow dancing. The most recent dream we are still at the window, he has his hands on my face softly rubbing his thumb at the corner of my lips.

Who's the dude? And what's he doing with his finger in her face? Find out after the jump:
12.29.2008  BY DR. KATE
The Beast That Is Yeast
Happy Holidays, Bedposters. I'll be posting on a new site, , in January, while Em & Lo will be continuing to blog on their site.. Let's keep the conversations going!

Hi Dr. Kate,
 
I am a 27-year-old female who, up until recently (maybe over the past year or so), never had a yeast infection. Now, it seems as if I get one at least once every two or three months! It may sound silly, but I have recently gained weight and even though I am very clean (I bathe daily but do not douche or use scented feminine products), I still seem to contract these pesky infections and I think my weight gain may have something to do with it. I am just about at my wit's end, and as I do not have health insurance, I do not have the means to run to the doc every time I get one. Fortunately, I do work for a medical call center and a nurse is often willing to call in an Rx for Fluconazole for me since I am a former patient of the practice she works for. I am also afraid of building up a resistance to the medication. Please help!
 
Thanks so much,
Sick of Scratching

Dear SoS,

I don't think your weight gain has anything to do with it: unless you've developed diabetes, yeast doesn't seem to be too strongly tied to weight. And yeast DEFINITELY doesn't mean you're not clean.
12.29.2008  BY EM & LO
New Year's Resolution Stars for the Week of December 29th

Happy Holidays everybody! We'll be posting here until Wednesday, but come the new year you can find us at -- be sure to bookmark it!


aries (Mar. 21st-Apr. 20th)
Oh, this really cracks us up. The stars have a teeny-tiny recommendation for you this week: "Look for someone who can dazzle your mind and challenge your every thought." Yeah, like it's really that easy. No big deal, right? Geez, and all this time we've been chasing dullards with no sex appeal. How come no one told us we should chase the catch of the day? Well, Aries, before you get all cocky like us, stop and think for a second: When was the last time you really went after someone you wanted bad, someone you thought you couldn't get? Are you settling to avoid rejection? Do we sound like your shrink yet? Have you called your mother lately? Your New Year's resolution: Shoot for the moon and maybe you'll end up shagging a little star. And call your mother.

taurus (Apr. 21st-May 20th)
When we look at your week, Taurus, one phrase comes to mind: "Charming the pants off." 'Tis the season for you to be getting boo-tay! And it's not just 'cause everyone's too drunk to care who they get lucky with, we swear. You're sparkling like your jacket is lined with Christmas lights, and everyone's going to be lining up to sit on your knee and whisper what they really want for the holidays in your ear. Turns out Santa didn't put out this year--but on New Year's Eve, you can make up for that. Your New Year's resolution: Let it all flow--the booze, the compliments, the sweet talking. Just let it flow. And carry condoms everywhere.

gemini (May 21st-June 21st)
To paraphrase a line from one of Lo's favorite movies, The Four Seasons: "Your thoughts are like gumballs that just drop down from your brain onto your tongue." To put it less delicately, you've got diarrhea of the mouth when it comes your romantic emotions. Your New Year's resolution: Remove feet from your diet completely. However, you can put a sock in it. Socks are okay.
12.24.2008  BY EM & LO
Winners of the "Never Have Sex the Same Way Twice" Contest

We got a ton of great entries! And they're all winners! But we only have two copies of Alison Tyler's "Never Have Sex the Same Way Twice" to give away. It was hard to narrow down, so while there were a lot of good ideas in the comments section of the contest announcement post, we only considered the tips which were emailed in per our instruction (see, it pays to read directions carefully). Immediately below are our two faves (which we're sure some of you will disagree with), followed by the honorable mentions. Thanks for playing!

WINNER: Maybe it's just 'cause we love pretending, but my fiance and I keep things spicy by role playing...as ourselves. But as our future selves, or as our younger selves. We'll spend a whole day pretending we met and hooked up under completely different circumstances, but because we don't have to take on totally new roles (I mean, really, I'd have no idea what to do as a naughty nurse, and he's a teacher in real life, so we don't want to bring that into our sex) we find we can be adventurous in a totally comfortable way. One of our favorite things to do is to pretend we are just friends, with secret crushes we're both too scared to admit. We'll spend the whole day, shopping, or taking in a movie or pizza, hinting at our "crush" but never saying it openly. Since we're "just friends" we can't be affectionate as we usually would be, and so by the end of the day, we're so glad when one of us decides to end the platonic relationship with a hot, desperate kiss. During sex, we pretend it's our first time all over again. We love this because we get to feel those nervous first time jitters all over again. -Ashley

WINNER: The thing that keeps me and my boyfriend glued together, is that even when my libido feels low, I remember that I fancy him. And I think that seems to be the key to our relationship. It sounds simple, because it is; it's so simple, it's something that get's overlooked quite a lot. I'll sit/lie/lounge/kneel there, and just look at him, and think about how attractive he is, and why, and it reminds me that I want to keep him around. So when we've been in a "slump" (quotemarks because the sex is still fantastic) and only been having sex in the same few positions, moods, and styles, I'll remember how it was when we first met, and decide to seduce him again. Not with lingerie nessecarily, but I'll let go like I've been in a drought, and he's a one-night stand, or I'll make certain sly faces at him whilst he's doing something important, or we'll be doing something domestic so I'll let my skirt ride up a little bit more and shift over to him. The kinds of things that you do when you know you need to try a little to get into someone's pants. But rather than going through the motions, I'll think about all the sex I used to have, and what I did then; adding in things I tried out years ago, or making him become slightly unavailable again in my mind. Because that's sort of the point. When I remember that he doesn't have to be having fantastic sex with me, and I don't know if I could have this fantastic sex with someone else - he's raised the bar when I think about some past encounters - it makes me want to have him more. - Laithia

HONORABLE MENTIONS...
12.24.2008  BY EM & LO
How to...Gracefully Depart from a One-Night Stand
Happy Holidays everybody! In the new year you can find us at -- be sure to bookmark it!

Okay, we know we told you not to impulse-shop for a significant other at this time of year (a puppy is for life, not just for Christmas, blah blah blah), but we also know what the combination of mistletoe and eggnog does to people, which means that 'tis the season for ill-advised one-night stands. Thus, we thought it was a good time to remind everyone to mind their one-night stand manners. Last month we told you how to have a one-night stand--this month we'll tell you how to leave that one-night stand.

So, this guy friend of ours once took a brand-new ladyfriend home on New Year's Eve. The connection was immediate, the ensuing flirtation deliberate, the innuendos kinky, the sex kinkier. They kissed sloppily, fumbled with zippers, mussed up each other's hair. It was a perfectly debauched interlude. But in the thirty seconds between rolling over and passing out, this dude experienced that oh-so-familiar panic attack: What will she expect of me in the morning? When he awoke to a hangover and the sun streaming in around nine, he reluctantly opened one eye to check on his bedmate. But she had vanished. The only sign that he'd even entertained company the previous evening was the slightly ajar front door. "I felt so used," he is fond of saying--not entirely ruefully--when he tells this story at dinner parties. "I suppose I would have appreciated a note, but her leave-taking did have a certain dramatic flair." ...

12.23.2008  BY DR. KATE
5 Questions to Ask at Your Annual Exam
The end of the year (and the beginning of the next) is the perfect time to head to your gyno for a check-up, if you're due for one. Think of it as getting a clean bill of sexual health as you enter 2009. Here are five things that you should consider asking your gyno about in your 20 minute visit:

  • STD testing. Don't assume that you'll get tested for "everything." Your gyno can do cervical (or urine) cultures for chlamydia and gonorrhea, vaginal tests for, and blood tests for HIV, syphilis and hepatitis--all upon request.
  • Pap smear need. Unless you've had a recent abnormal pap, you can ask your gyno if you really need one. The latest recommendations call for a pap every two to three years.
  • Period relief. If you're beset with awful cramps or heavy bleeding every month, ask about ways to improve your periods. It may be a birth control prescription, or as simple as a high-dose anti-inflammatory medication.
  • Contraception. Ask for a prescription with enough refills of your pill, patch or ring to last you the entire year. Your gyno can give you a script for a three-month supply at a time that you can mail in to save money, if your insurance company offers this option.
  • Prescriptions. If you have herpes or recurrent yeast infections, you can get an advance prescription for acyclovir, Valtrex or Diflucan to have on hand for your next infection.
And if you have a lot of questions, bring a written list. It's normal to completely forget your concerns once you're shivering in that thin gown.

12.23.2008  BY EM & LO
An Xmas Miracle?

Happy Holidays! We'll be posting here tomorrow, Monday and Tuesday, but come the new year you can find us at EMandLO.com -- be sure to bookmark it!
12.23.2008  BY EM & LO
Man-Handled: Is a Striptease a Good Gift?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the question, If your partner gave you a serious striptease with a serious striptease face and cheesy music, would it really be the best present ever or would it be kinda weird and uncomfortable?:

Straight Single Guy (Max):
A serious striptease requires two things. First, there cannot be cheesy music. Barry White makes me laugh. He does not turn me on. Traditional "sexy" music like that isn't very serious. Using it would probably just be weird and uncomfortable. Give me my favorite music, or perhaps our favorite music. Second, just like a strip bar, I cannot be allowed to touch. This means that I must be tied down, pinned down or somehow unable to simply grab her once she begins to undress. (Unlike a strip bar however, bouncers are a bad idea). The whole appeal of stripping is the tease, and we men have very little self control. You know this: Once one piece of clothing comes off, we're prone to rip the rest of it off as well. A striptease where the timetable is entirely decided upon by the girl stripping... Yeah. That could actually be the best thing ever.

Gay Committed Guy (Terence):
I gotta go with an emphatic no on the partner striptease. I feel terrible about it. I should be thrilled by the idea, right?. Then I think, what if my neighbor did one for me? Oh yeah, that'd be hot. So my rudimentary scientific method tells me that stripteases get me going when I don't know the person all that well. Then again, when I think of my boss and a couple co-workers whom I don't know all too well, I come up with a  revised theory: stripteases get my juices flowing when I don't the person all that well, but want to get to know them in bed. That's it. With my partner I'd be, like, oh please. But now here's a little twist. If my partner were to seriously strip my clothes off me with or without a serious face and cheesy music, I'd probably cream my pants before my socks got pulled off.

Straight Married Guy (Matt):
I think it depends on the partner. If my partner was super embarrassed, I would probably find it super embarrassing. If they felt empowered and just went with it, it could be hot, I guess. The biggest problem with these things--for me, anyway--is that it immediately makes me think of something women learn from daytime TV...you know, "10 Sure-Fire Ways to Spice Up Your Ice-Cold Love Life" and so on.  An ex-girlfriend of mine once dressed up in lingerie to surprise me with a little routine, but it was during a very depressing point near the end of the relationship, and the whole thing just felt a little sad and contrived. So maybe that experience has soured me on the concept, but it's not a fantasy I'm particularly yearning to live out.

Our "guys" are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week they're all a little shy.
12.22.2008  BY EM & LO
We're Moving!

As of January 2nd, we've got new digs! The url DailyBedpost.com will no longer work, but you'll be able to find the same kind of daily advice, horoscopes, polls, surveys, news, raves and rants about sex & relationships you've come to know and lust here over at . We're currently redecorating to make it more blogga-friendly, but by the new year we'll be all set up to have guests over. We hope you'll for a site-warming soon after New Year's and then keep dropping in whenever you like!
12.22.2008  BY EM & LO
Sex Dream Analysis: "I'm Cheating on My Fiance"
Very rarely are other people's dreams interesting...except when they're about sex. This week dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg helps a woman on the verge of a nervous one-night stand:

In my waking life, my boyfriend and I are very happy but we are separated by almost 500 miles.  We're getting engaged before the end of the year, and both of us are very committed to our monogamous relationship. But for the past 2 or 3 nights in a row, I've dreamt my boyfriend (almost fiance) and I are in the process of splitting up (it's never been clear if we've actually made the split, or are still discussing it).  Always, I'm in a situation where my boyfriend isn't there, and I have the urge to have a one-night-stand (or one-quickie-over-lunch-stand) with a really attractive person. I know the people I want to have the fling with in my waking life, but these are men that I would never consider sleeping with. One is a student (I'm a graduate TA teaching undergrads) and the other is a bad-news-bear of a friend. In my dreams, I either sleep with these men (and it's really good) or I really strongly consider it, weighing the consequences with my boyfriend. I would like to know if this dream has a hidden meaning or am I just dreaming.

Is she having second thoughts about getting married (or having sex with with only one person for the rest of her life)? Find out after the jump (right after you!):
12.22.2008  BY EM & LO
Holiday Stars for the Week of December 22nd

aries (Mar. 21st-Apr. 20th)
Should auld acquaintance be forgot,
And never brought to mind?
No, auld acquaintance be called up,
It's ex-booty time!

taurus (Apr. 21st-May 20th)
Oh! You better watch out,
You better not cry,
You better not pout,
We're telling you why:
Someone special's coming to town!

They'll spoon you when you're sleeping,
They'll screw when you're awake.
They'll spank you just because you're good,
So be good for sex's sake!

gemini (May 21st-June 21st)
City sidewalks, busy sidewalks,
Dressed in holiday style.
In the air,
There's a feeling,
of Dionysus.
People laughing,
Strangers passing,
Meeting stare after stare.
And on ev'ry street corner you'll hear,

"Hey, hot-stuff!" "Hey, hot-stuff!"
"I want to lick your big booty."
"You're a doll," hear them call,
Soon it will be Christmas lay.
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