09.12.2007  BY EM & LO
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One of our favorite sex advice columnists of all time, Dan Savage, tackles a question in his syndicated column this week about women who like to yell out paternal-themed words in the heat of the moment. Actually, the specific question he received--which was jointly addressed to his fellow syndicated columnist Gustavo Arellano, a.k.a. Ask a Mexican--was "Why do Mexican chicks yell for their papi during sex?"

Arellano gets deep and meaningful about the machismo nature of Latin American culture, and how, when you mix it with Catholicism and some Freudian and Oedipal impulses, "You're left with some fucked-up sexual mores that a half-century of Chicana feminism and modernity have yet to eradicate." But we prefer Savage's simple response, which could apply to anyone whose heat-of-the-moment epithets have a distinctly parental quality to them: "It turns them on." And why not? The whole point of a fantasy life is that it's not bound by rules, laws, or real-life taboos. It's not incest to call out for Mommy or Daddy as you climax, and it's not proof that you need therapy, either. Though, we admit, it's one thing to be hypothetically judgment-free...and quite another to be able to handle it in real life. Lucky for us, in this matter, at least, we've never been tested on whether we could practice what we preach. How do you think you'd handle being addressed as Mommy or Daddy in the bedroom?


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