An article on the front page of Saturday's New York Times described how spouses are increasingly spying on each other electronically in order to find out whether they're being cuckolded and/or to score a better deal in the divorce court. And who says romance is dead?

One man discovered his wife was having an affair when he installed a program on her computer that would take a snapshot of her screen every 15 seconds and e-mail it to him at work. Another suspicious husband installed a G.P.S. tracking device in one of the wheels of the family car. And a cynical wife, in a decidedly more practical (i.e. cost-effective and low-tech) approach, ran her husband a birthday bubble bath to give herself 20 minutes alone with his Blackberry. Just about all of the snoopers discovered that they were being cheated on.

Which makes sense--after all, if you snooped and discovered that your partner's late-night furtive e-mailing could be explained by an upcoming surprise trip to Paris for you, then you're not exactly going to go blabbing about it to the paper of record, are you? No, you're more likely to slink away in shame and dedicate yourself to a year of nonreciprocal oral sex.

But what about when you do discover an infidelity? Do the ends justify the means? Is it reasonable to confront the cheating bastard, as a friend of ours once did, with the opening line, "I did something kind of bad, but you did something way way worse"? And it's not just an ethical conundrum--it's a legal one, too. Turns out, if you share a computer and tell each other your passwords, your so-called private e-mail exchanges may be admissible in court. Talk about paying for sex.

So, have you ever been tempted to snoop on a partner, even just a little bit? What about if they leave their e-mail program open--do you scan the inbox for unfamiliar names? If they get a late-night text message and are in the other room, do you look to see who it's from? Go on...you can tell us.