We just wrote a piece for the London Times called "Seduce Your Wife" (their title, not ours) that was intended as a responses of sorts to an earlier article in the same paper which blamed feminism for women's tendency to just say no in the bedroom. According to that article, "With increasing frequency, women in their twenties, thirties and forties take a pragmatic, postfeminist view that sex is something over which they have no need to negotiate. In the bedroom, there is no compromise. If a man has a higher sex drive than a woman, then he can sort himself out."

So we were asked to write a piece reminding men that there are things they could be doing to even the libido stakes, rather than just sitting around whining about feminism has ruined their sex life. Like, oh, housework for one. Without being asked. (Or "nagged," to use the male vernacular.)

And yeah, yeah, we know that there are plenty of women who wish their guys' libidos kept up with theirs, and there are plenty of women married to men who are better cooks, cleaners, and naggers than they'll ever be... but still, when we surveyed women in long-term, live-in relationships, the overwhelming response to our question, "What gets you in the mood?" was, well, vacuuming. Or doing the dishes, paying the bills, cooking dinner, taking out the trash...just something without being asked first. Oh yeah, and the guy needs to do it without releasing a press statement about his heroic deed.

The male readers of the Times weren't too impressed ("Dear Experts," writes Ron, "I'm sorry your sex life has been the pits. Mine hasn't been, and I'm glad of that. Fortunately I have bumbled through life never meeting you or your ilk."), though the lady readers of Jezebel were much kinder. So, which are you: the kind who wishes your husband would put down his laptop and just jump your bones already, or the kind who'd love a little wooing via household chores first...? Or another kind altogether? (No pigeon-holes here!)