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The fact that condoms don't increase sexual activity among adolescents is reassuring to me, though not surprising. When I'm staffing our family planning clinic, no patient leaves my office without a brown bag. In the bag are her birth control method of choice (pills, patches, or rings), and any medication that she needs (like for bladder or yeast infections). Most importantly, though, the bag is full of condoms--it's kind of like Halloween for adults. No matter what contraception she's using, if she's sexually active, I want her to be prepared to protect herself against sexually transmitted infections. Condoms are also a great back-up to any birth control method; women who want to decrease their chances of pregnancy even further use "dual method" protection.
Research shows that I'm doing the right thing by my patients. Certainly I don't want teens, especially young ones, to begin sexual activity before they're ready. But I want my patients, of all ages, to be able to protect themselves when they do have sex. And so often, we have sex when we're not prepared to--overcome by lust, by love, by boredom. Having condoms around increases the chance that one will land on a penis at the time of sex. I'd love to hear from you--does having condoms around make you horny? Or make you feel protected? 3 CommentsLeave a comment |
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No matter how many condoms you have, they don't do anything unless you can find someone that wants to have sex with you. Mostly they get played with, turned into balloons, worn on various body parts, etc... because they never find a partner.
And since I'm in a long term relationship, and we have jointly decided that condoms are no fun, and 'leave something to be missed' (her words to her gyno), when I see that the condoms are out I know anal sex is soon(1-4 hours(preperation))to follow.
I feel bad for our friends though, they have been dating for 7 years (we are all adults by the way), and still use condoms. When it comes to long term there are so many better feeling options.
Many folks do believe that sex feels better without a condom. But sex feels best when you're not worried, about disease OR pregnancy. So I wouldn't feel too bad for your friends, if they've found a method that works for them.
I want to clarify that I don't advocate unsafe sex, I am simply saying that there are methods of birth control that feel better than condoms. Also, most of my feeling bad comes more from the level of anxiety throughout all of the relationship, than just the sex; but without a back story it's hard to portray all of that.