02.26.2008  BY EM & LO

The G-spot news this past week--research that "proves" the G-spot's existence and the new phenomenon of G-shot parties--has taken us down memory lane. Several years ago, an old college buddy of Em's, Liz Topp, asked us to write a blurb for the back of her book, Vaginas: An Owner's Manual, which she had written with her gynecologist mom, Dr. Carol Livoti. We LOVED the idea of the book and almost all of its content. But their take on the G-spot--it doesn't exist--kept us from endorsing it. You see, we had just published our first sex manual, The Big Bang (2003), for which we had done extensive research on the topic. We came away from that research believing whole-heartedly it to be real, and felt it was too irresponsible for their book to dismiss the limited yet compelling scientific evidence out there as insignificant and so many women's experiences as imaginary...

They must have gotten a lot of feedback (flack and otherwise) on their stance, because Liz's next big project, still ongoing, is a documentary she's producing called Searching for G: The Truth Is Coming. Not sure when it'll be finished but we were happy to give her an interview for it last spring, in which we discussed the scientific research on the G-spot. (A quick and dirty review of some of this research can be found in a letter from Rebecca Chalker, author of the kickass Clitoral Truth, to one doc who had poo-pooed the G in the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology.)

So we were surprised by the recent Metro UK article on the new G-spot research claiming that this is the only real research out there. Which just goes to show how little decent research and understanding there is on the matter. And what's really frustrating is the fact that this new Italian study only used 20 subjects. Twenty! When is this sex-saturated culture going to put their money where their mouth is and start doing some decent studies of female sexual function (and dysfunction) so both women and men can better understand all the ways our bodies can work. We think there are enough penis pills on the market to hold us over for awhile. 

What we do find interesting about this new research is the seeming confirmation that not all women have a G-spot--or at least not all women will find it's stimulation orgasm-inducing. We've always told people asking about the G that every woman has one, but not all of them will like having it touched--just as all men have a prostate but not all of them will like having it touched. (As far as we're concerned, the G-spot is the area of spongy tissue surrounding the urethra that can be felt and stimulated via the top vaginal wall, whether you like it or not.) Similarly, some women will physiologically be able to ejaculate while others won't, depending on the glandular make-up of their urethral sponge (as Slovakian doctor Milan Zaviacic's research has shown). 

That said, while we hope for new and more decent research to emerge in this field, we hope it will help people's sex lives rather than hurt them by setting up more ridiculous ideals to try (and fail) to achieve. Just as we mentioned a week and a half ago in an advice column about the A-spot, the idea of categorizing orgasms (at least at this stage of limited research when women's bodies are still such a mystery) is preposterous. One "kind" of orgasm is not better than another. Everyone is different: one woman's G-spot ecstasy is another's urinary tract pain. Which is why the idea of G-shot parties (where women get injections to make their G-spots "work") is toad-licking crazy! (Akin to the mystery ass injections Ivory Coast women are getting because of some stupid big-butt dance craze.) We encourage everyone to study their own and their partner's anatomies, but all the while keeping in mind that what they like and what works for them may not fit whatever mold of sexuality is being hyped in the media at that moment. If it takes a dinky little study like this one to make women feel more secure about their own physical likes and abilities, we'll take it. 

Stay tuned for an interview with Liz Topp on her search for the illustrious G-spot in a few weeks.



i am a male and have become involved in an argument regarding the G Spot and it being licked.
i know this can be done as i have done it to two females.
however most of my male friends deny its possable.
some female freinds (not those i have done this with ) are not sure about it either.
can anyone support my experiences

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