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Us with Carol at Good Vibrations in San Francisco during our first book tour in 2003. 

As a teenager, Carol Queen talked about sex and had it whenever possible. As a college student, she appeared on LGBT panels in health classes, and then worked as an AIDS educator. It was this work that made her turn pro: "Knowing that a career in sex ed and sex advocacy truly meant life-or-death change was all the nudge I needed." So she moved to San Francisco, got a doctorate in sexology, worked at The Lusty Lady and then Good Vibrations (where she's currently the staff sexologist), and generally immersed herself in the sexual communities as much as possible.

She's written and edited a mountain of sex/erotic books, including Exhibitionism for the Shy (which she's currently updating for a reprint) and her latest, More 5 Minute Erotica, to say nothing of her explicit educational videos (surely you've heard of Bend-Over-Boyfriend). She's on the board of the Woodhull Freedom Foundation, which advances sexual freedom as a fundamental human right. Oh, and she co-founded the Center for Sex & Culture in San Francisco, which holds events like the upcoming "Personal Thinking Patterns and Sex: The Awakened Mindfuck with Heron Saline" and "Advanced Nude Yogaplay for Men" (and is made possible by supporters like you, hint hint). Carol is the nicest and most knowledgeable sex freak you'll ever meet! 

Em & Lo: What did you want to be when you grew up?

Carol Queen: When I was a kid I wanted to be an archaeologist, then a writer (which I am, but it took me a while to figure out sex was what I wanted to write about), and just before I gave myself to sexology, I was hot to do historic preservation architecture.

Is sex like pizza, even when it's bad it's good? Why or why not?

Bad sex is better than bad pizza in at least one respect: it's educational. 

How does your work affect your sex life?

At times it has very much facilitated it (putting me in places, and next to people, I'd not otherwise have been); at times it's gotten in the way, mostly by being so compelling or overwhelming that I focus on it instead of the opportunities for sex around me. But I think the same could be said of most peoples' work; I used to get laid when I was a waitress too.

Craziest place you've ever had sex?

It may not surprise anyone that the author of Exhibitionism for the Shy was once able to climax between ordering lunch at the drive-thru and picking it up at the window. 

Most underrated erogenous zone?

Sides of the belly. Mmmm! There are lovely nerve endings all over the place. Wrists are awesome too.

Favorite on-screen sex scene?

Honestly I don't have just one, but I really love Vanessa del Rio in Dracula Exotica where she's giving head to at least two sailors and spies one hanging off to the side, furtively watching; she purrs, "Oh, I just can't be mean... come here, Eric" in that Puerto Riquena way of hers. Mee-ow!

Desert island sex-toy?

Um, a Hitachi and a generator?

Best sex advice you've ever given or received?

From the late, great Steven Brown, on safer sex: "If you have to give up one of the ways you get off, it'll make it a lot easier if you have another 99 ways you also like to get off than if that was the only way you had." (Steven is also responsible for telling me about the "style conflict," a notion which helps me stay sex-positive when I am tempted to judge someone else's sexual practice or, for that matter, personality.)

Dead historical person you'd have sex with if you could (alive, of course)?

Golly, there are so many. If I'm feeling musical, a three-way with Jim Morrison and Marc Bolan. If I'm feeling literary, a three-way with Virginia Woolf and Vita Sackville-West.

Least sexy "sex symbol"?

Anna Nicole when she was high. Sometimes it really is rehab or death, people.

Rate the following in order of importance, from greatest to least: sex, love, money, fame, chocolate, Facebook.

Hm, this is hard. Here goes:

love, sex, chocolate, money, fame, Facebook. 

But I don't even have a Facebook profile. I'm such a Luddite that going on to Tribe nearly killed me. But if it's in the same league as chocolate, I'll think again.


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nancy said:

inside of the wrists...yum.

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