Author, Sex Educator & Porn Producer

Education: Phi Beta Kappa, Wesleyan University
Columnist: The Village Voice and Hustler's Taboo Magazine
Honors: Her book The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women was's #1 Bestseller in Women's Sex Instruction in 1998.
Latest Book: Down and Dirty Sex Secrets: The New and Naughty Guide to Being Great in Bed
Latest Directorial Project: "Tristan Taormino's Expert Guide to Oral Sex"
Factoid: We first saw Tristan about ten years ago giving a talk on sex in NYC during which she had a volunteer from the audience insert a butt plug in her while she continued with the lecture. Oh, and Thomas Pynchon's her uncle.

Em & Lo: How and why did you get into a sex-related career? Did you ever have another direction you thought your future career might take?
Tristan Taormino: I was supposed to go to law school.

Is sex like pizza, even when it's bad it's good? Why or why not?
I'm from New York, so bad pizza is really, really bad and makes me wish I never took a bite.

How does your work affect your sex life?...
I get a lot more offers for sex than I would if I was a librarian, I think.

Craziest place you've ever had sex?
Grand Central Station.

Most underrated erogenous zone?

Favorite on-screen sex scene?
Gina Gershon and Jennifer Tilly in Bound.

Desert island sex-toy?
Lube...not a toy, I know, but a sex accessory nonetheless.

Best sex advice you've ever given or received?
"Breathe," from Betty Dodson.

Dead historical person you'd have sex with if you could (alive, of course)?
Amelia Earhart

Least sexy "sex symbol"?
Mel Gibson. Remember when he was named the Sexiest Man Alive? I don't get it.

Rate the following in order of importance, from greatest to least: sex, love, money, fame, chocolate, Facebook.
love, chocolate, money, sex, fame, Facebook


Steve said:

1) Wait, really? A buttplug in front of everyone?
2) Wrong, I offer my librarian sex every time I take out a book.
3) Why is everyone having sex in GCS?

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