Our very own Bedposter Colin Adamo is the only straight man majoring in Women's, Gender & Sexuality Studies at Yale. This warranted his own profile in the Yale Daily yesterday, so we asked Colin what he thought about the article:
I think it's great. On the front page my face is like a third of the page, so that's a little odd, but the approach is fantastic and brings some good attention to the major: the fact that it needs more support, more stability and, at other schools like Princeton (where it's only a side-concentration and not a major) needs complete legitimacy.

I was at an office party this morning for my job at the Yale Center for British Art and a bunch of people were surprised and excited. Some women asked me what it was about. When I explained that I was the only heterosexual male in WGSS they all gasped and were completely surprised by that fact: "Wow, we didn't know."

It's kind of funny: a gay friend who used to work at the museum helped get me this job. So I guess I was sort of riding an ambiguous sexuality at work. Now I was outed as straight. I feel the same thing might happen again this summer while I'm working with a gay lobbyist group.
Then we just had to ask what the serious journalists at the Yale Daily apparently couldn't: Come on, how much was your major determined by a motivation to meet women?...
Ha! I don't think that it was related to meeting women at all. There's actually plenty of opportunities at Yale and outside our castle walls and moats to meet women, especially with the aphoristic statistic: "1 in 4, maybe more," in reference to our gay male population. We are sometimes referred to as the "Gay Ivy." So competition for women isn't incredibly strong.

Usually with my presence in my gender study classes as well as at the Women's Center I prefer to sort of shut off my sexual drive, even if this is realistically implausible. But I recognize that my presence may be questionable, so I feel that the safest way to approach the situation and make myself not be a threat in any way is to never start anything romantic with anyone I encounter in these environments. Basically it just comes down to separating business from pleasure.

As to why it's my major: Many of these classes help us understand something which we take for granted and then help us think about it critically. As soon as you're jerked screaming from the womb someone spanks you and says, "It's a boy" or "It's a girl," and from then on your whole existence is built around this. Do you just leave it at that or do you examine more closely something that seems to be incredibly important to who we are? All of us need to think about to this stuff in order to create a more equal-opportunity society, not just along gender lines--because these courses don't end there--but also along race, class, and roles. I hear things every day that make me reconsider how I want to approach the future.
Straight ladies, Colin is single. And obviously a catch. Feel free to hit on him at [email protected].


becky said:

Too bad I'm almost twice his age. And live on the other side of the country.

Wendell said:

As us het fellas are supposed to say: "respect." Glad to see you "out" there as a het guy who doesn't accept normative gender roles, and is getting the degree to back it up. The more we can get other guys to see how critique of gender roles can actually *help* them (maybe without the jargon!), the more progress I think we will have made.

I'm so glad a friend forwarded this post to me - I just wrote a post about men in women's studies at UMich and it fascinates me - esp from the business angle. I think Colin would be in great demand by a lot of brands focused on marketing to women when he graduates.. just a thought. I'm going to email him now to line up my own interview... Thanks for writing about this!

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