I believe that loving people is heroic work and that it never really gets easy.  I believe if we give up the idea that relationships exist to make us happy or make life easy, and accept that they are the most gentle and consistent means of learning to love each other, than we might be more respectful of the work that it takes and more patient with ourselves as we learn to do it. I don't think that some people are more adept than others, I believe that culturally we don't have high expectations of our ability to relate over time and so we let ourselves off the hook when it gets rough, which is exactly when we are given the lessons of love that we most need to learn.  

What do you say to people who think if love takes "work" then it's not really love?

I think people who would say that have not given themselves the time to experience what happens to relationships after doing the hard work of staying. Communication improves, our thinking and ability to ask for support that a partner can actually give is more developed, and getting what you want emotionally and sexually gets easier as relationships mature if they do the real work of loving someone else.  

What do you think of porn within a long-term monogamous relationship?

I think pornography, especially porn created by and for women, can be a nice stimulant to an ongoing monogamous relationship. The issue with any added component in sexual relationships is one of intent, not content. If both partners are looking for ways to deepen their relationship and their ability to find pleasure together, then they can use the multiple tools including porn to enhance their time and contact. If it is used to hurt or distance each other, well then, that is another issue entirely and one that is often referred to of late in the media, of losing intimacy and closeness to a surrogate relationship which is really no relationship at all. Being addicted to anything, including porn, is a way to avoid real intimacy, which our culture is very adept at.

How are your products green exactly?

Good Clean Love is an approved Coop America Green Company and strives to reduce it's impact while providing the highest quality ingredients and recyclable packaging materials available. We take our corporate mission of expanding the awareness of love seriously by sharing the wealth of love with peace initiatives around the world. We believe that by helping women to create and sustain strong families, we make the world a more loving place. Good Clean Love is a signer of the Campaign for Safe Cosmetics and is continuously working to educate women, physicians and retail stores about the importance of clean and healthy ingredients in love products. We believe that it is vital to replace the use of petrochemicals and parabens in all intimacy products. We provide samples to schools, doctor's offices and cancer treatment centers.

What's your best-selling product?

Our best sellers are our love oil gift pack, which gives a range of scent options for every taste and works to wake up the arousal mechanism in the brain naturally, through scent, which is one of the most important sexual senses we have. Emotion, memory and sexuality are all tied up together with our ability to smell. Our almost naked lube is the best; it has taken years off my sex life and has allowed me to experience pleasure without pain or any sticky residue that I haven't had in years--since before my first child who is now 19.

What's the difference between the oils and the lube?

I always tell customers that they should think of the product use in steps. Oil-based products first for all kinds of foreplay--waking up your limbic/arousal mechanism with hand and oral sex--and then the lube for amazing penetration when you can't wait any longer. With love products, more is better....