As you may remember, Glamour took some of our advice in their recent Q&A on orgasms. This week, in honor of Orgasm Month, we'll give you ALL of it...because a dirty mind is a terrible thing to waste. Here's today's question (tune in tomorrow for the next):

It takes me forever to have an orgasm. How can I speed things up for me (and slow things down for my partner)?

Make sure your mind is in the game, not off worrying about deadlines or how your butt looks. Keep your eyes open, look into his or at the action, and think about how good everything feels. If you close your eyes, then replay your favorite fantasy in your mind. Enlist the help of a favorite vibrator--they can offer a faster, more intense sensation more consistently and for longer than a human hand (which may be prone to cramping). Let him wield it so he can play with the controls, which might distract him from his own orgasm.