if it's a priority to her to find out if sex is enjoyable, she should make an honest effort to try new partners (and the new experiences that come with new partners). this may mean leaving her boyfriend (an open relationship probably isn't the best option here). if staying with her boyfriend is an absolute priority, then she should talk to him about this concern (he may have no idea). otherwise she already gave it a good go and should just live up to the choice of being perfectly fine with her sex life how it is.

also if she does try a few new partners in the future, it's a possibility it may turn out she just isn't that interested in sex. many people live their lives with sex not being a strong focus for them.

Eh, dump him. You're never going to enjoy sex with someone as unadventurous and selfish as that. In order to truly enjoy it, both partners need to be open-minded and invested in giving the other person pleasure, and someone who 'doesn't really do' oral is neither of those things.

I was in the same situation when I was 17/18 - I was having sex, but I wasn't orgasming and after while I'd be like, "Eh, are you done yet?" Then I met a guy who actually cared about my pleasure and understood that in and out a few times wasn't going to do it, and lo and behold, on our first night together, he gave me my first non-solo orgasm - and it was a g-spot one, too.

Oral is not the be and and end all of orgasms... but having a partner who's willing to do anything within reasonable limits (and oral is so within those limits) to get you off is essential.

I'm with Shelly on this one. If there's one thing I have learned from my handful of relationships, it's that the relationship needs to be open enough that you can talk and experiment with fun new ways to get it on, please each other, etc...He can't read your mind, you have to tell him what you like or dislike. If he cares he'll make some changes. Any guy that doesn't go down on you isn't worth your time. Period!

Did she mention wanting to break up with her boyfriend? I think she should practice on her own, and be patient with herself. He prob isn't into oral because he doesn't think he knows how. If she really wants oral - he should at least try, and they should both be particularly patient with the results.

I don't think that I will ever change my opinion that the Hitachi Magic Wand is indeed magic. She should try getting one of those and start out slow, with giving each other massages with it, and then gently encourage him to use on her in sexier ways. The key here is that the Hitachi seems pretty non-threatening, as far as the whole "my girlfriend has a fake penis that's going to replace me!' thing that some guys go through. Hopefully, she will enjoy it and when he sees how much she enjoys it, it will open the door to other avenues of enjoyment.

Um, "doesn't do oral" isn't cool. If you are insisting on staying with someone who won't try it for you, then tell him to get really good at getting you off manually -taking time, starting slow, realizing how sensitive the clitoris is. Also, work on it yourself, so you can give him guidance. Yes, this means talking about sex and your pleasure!

I say, most likely, dump him.

FIRST, She needs to explore her sexuality. Obviously, masturbating is good. She needs (1) to develop her perspective on sexuality and her ability to orgasm and (2) to understand what does and does not work for her.

With respect to oral sex, personally, a tongue *is a terrible thing to waste*.

SECOND, I must state that if he is not willing to do spend so much energy on making her come that either (1) he says,
"I sorry, I can't do it any longer (tongue, finger, penis, combo)" or she says (2) "Stop, it hurts", the she should dump the self asshole.

find a real man: a real man eats pu**y

As for the Hitachi Magic Wand, I bought one after reading all the raving reviews. Wear ear plugs! lol i mean leaf-blower loud!! but it works.

A person needs to know their own body and what brings pleasure. Then you can a. move your body during sex in ways that will give you orgasm, b. show your partner what you need and like, and / or c. touch yourself during sex to achieve orgasm.

I'm 27, and still haven't experienced an orgams (with a partner or solo). I too get the feeling of "is there all there is?" sometimes, more often than not. Sometimes my husband and I have great sex, great even for me, but it's rare, mostly it's great for him. I find after a while that I just lose interest, since there isn't much a payoff for me.