Right on! of Course the great part of letting your girl go first is that you can look at her ass while she leads the trail. ! Definitely take your turn to go first, its only fair!

Hey, the gal might have a valid point! My guy can hold off as long as he needs to, but I feel like I'm taking all damn day to get off. Maybe she's in the same situation. I mean, it's not always the guy's fault -- or anyone's fault, for that matter.

MY GOD! I WISH! its very hard for me to orgasm as well and i noticed that if i play with myself a little bit before that helps cuz you are already excited when you start actually penetrating try it let me know if you find any tricks!

Sounds like great advice to me! My guy always makes sure I'm satisfied before he lets go! It did take a few exes to find one who would wait! If we have trouble with him being able to hold out,we switch positions, the small wait in transfer is usually enough

Love the hiking analogy.

Ladies first should apply to the bedroom too...

Oh man, this is amazing and so simple to repair. You gave hiking as an example, but I was thinking more like cooking. What if you put all the food on the stove at the same time? Things would finish at different times. The answer? To finish at the same time! So, start things unevenly so the end is near the same time! Foreplay? Sounds necessary to me! I had several girlfriends who I made SURE they got LOTS of foreplay and orgasmed first, before I ever even started intercourse. But the reward for me? They said I was boring and all cheated. Sometimes you just cant win!!! Ekto.

Well all though my man dont have any problems being patient and fully satisfying me even after 13 years...after our 2nd child was born it had gotten harder for me to have a orgasm, so we experimented with a few different items...we bought a small bullet (egg) type vibrator to play around with...one night things just got very heated and fast forgetting the bulletin in the top of my virgina (around the clitorus) we begin to have intercoarse, not only did the vibrator speed up the orgasm but WOW it was very intense...this also helped a friend of mine that never had orgasms to start having them...i hope this helps

I say you should try imaging something really sexy that he does maybe role playing in your head while your having sex,it makes you hotter and more likely to reach your peak quicker......

I like and agree with some of the responses. Why tho, did the Em & Lo folks AssU/Me that it was all him? I'll be the first to admit, a lot of times it is the guys fault. But, I used to exercise so much "control" over my own, that I prided myself in the fact that I firmly believe in and practice the "ladies first" philosophy. But, after a while my gf would be like "can we just stop after I have an orgasm?". LoL..so it was a reverse situation. This article had a lot of presumptions and unanswered questions. Are they married or been together long? I hate to say it, but, when you're married, you don't feel like going 40 minutes to an hour each time you make love. I think it's a reasonable quest to consider ways to "speed up" the female orgasm. Toys might help...education ..to me..is better. Consider studying the female anatomy..from books and experience. The best way to me, is to learn about G-spots, and clitorisis....and how each woman is pleased in different ways. I've also found that foreplay, and letting the "woman do the driving" (see cowgirl position) aleviates a lot of those "PJ" problems (maybe)...if you let the lady do the driving..she knows the spots, the pressure..the "Groove" that feels best to her. With her doing the driving, the destination will be reached sooner. I'm all about the female orgasm is really the coolest part of the whole experience.....but there is nothing wrong with wanting to make love on a "worknight" ...and not wanting to make it a "marathon event" till the our sweet lady reaches the finish line in a reasonable amount of time.

Come on girls! always thinking of yourselves? Try working with your man for the answer you need. First remember us guys need our quickies. We know you girls need your extended plays but we lack the intrest on occasion. You need to realize once we are off we can become easily distracted. We love to bargan and I'll bet you if you talk to us about your needs we will respond in kind. In kind being the key here.
Your going to have to give us ours as well. We live for the occasional handy or the blowy. Again quickies are great for us, just remind us what you need just pryor to blastoff!
Most guys want more than anything to be good companions but most of all good lovers. Communicate and share.

very good !

OH MY GOD!!! This happened to me too.....but we never had intercourse because i just couldn't get truned on......but yea if he really does love you he will understand you i know what i'am telling you.

Kegels. I know it sounds crazy but it works. You feel your partner better. Try the Kegel Master 2000. If you use it daily and take a break from sex for two weeks your muscles will tighten up quicker. And I can promise you'll feel him better. Also after you've learned to properly do kegels you can tighten those vaginal muscles while he's inside of you and not only will it drive him wild but you'll enjoy every thrust. I do agree with telling him to slow done.

the best is making sure you orgasm before he gets undressed (ie during forplay). my guy loves to get me off manually and just watch and its a mutual turn on to know he's enjoying every move and sound i make. i think its the ego factor but hey we both have a good time :).

This happens to many women and some don't come forward. As the others have stated I would suggest foreplay to get you going. Also, have you tried incorporating toys? A good clitoral stimulant and a bullet will have you done in about 5 minutes! Check out my website if you need more help. You can also contact me thru there. It is www.SarahsPleasureParties.com

well what you can do is try some play with urself like someone said that always works....make urself want it bad so when he enters you will have a exploding one..Then the rest will be wild for you!!! sometimes we have are mind fool of junk so it is hard to have one as men they never worry about nothing! that why a man comes just fine!

sex is more of a mental exercise apart from also being a physical one. so use your mind when having sex - fantasize, talk and urge each other & u will find the best way to speed up your orgasm. also do not aim for the orgasm, keep on the edge for as long as possible, before going for the orgasm and see the explosive power of the orgasm.

he needs to slow down and take his time... And foreplay is the key... take all you can of it, until u are about to go. more than likely he will be the same.. then proceed to have sex.. both should go around the same time.. but talk to him though during sex, tell him to slow down u dont want it to end. this will make things better for the both of u...