I can't believe it, but I actually have to disagree with your poll options on this one!

I'd have expected y'all to write in: "Why are you waiting around for him to make a move? If you want a more conventional relationship, tell him so!" You girls are usually all about that, so I'm surprised not to see that as an option on the poll.

(Although I do agree that the phrasing of "I know it's hard for you to not have feelings for me." is pretty suspicious...)

Yeah, I didn't vote because I agree with Joshua. Why not just be honest? If you like someone enough to bone them, you like someone enough to have an honest conversation with him. And if he's NOT into it, then you get to make your choice--continue to sleep with him and ignore any romantic urges, or move on to someone who can be more than just a booty call.

I agree 100 percent with Joshua. If she wants a relationship with him, relationships are best built on open communication and total honesty, so she better work on that foundation now. Why she's being coy on the subject, particularly after what he said, is beyond my understanding.

Maybe by saying "it's hard for you not to have feelings for me" he meant "i have feelings for you".

How does one have conversation during sex? Seriously, how is this physically possible?! Dirty talk, requests and moans are one thing...but entire conversations?!

Uh, yeah, you guys are totally right! You know us better than we know ourselves. :-) We think we just were blinded by the douchiness of his statement "I know it's hard for you to not have feelings for me" and forgot that, yeah, she might actually want to make things work with this guy. You're right, that sentence could be totally out of context, or could mean something very different from what we're thinking. We won't change the poll now as it'll mess with everyone else's answers, but that option should definitely be there.

8 months is a long time to have a monogamous booty call. Chances are, he could very well feel the same way that you do. The monogamy part kind of triggered that for me.

So, I agree with all of the above commenters: just ask him what's up! The other reason I agree? Just last week I finally told my booty call that I thought I would like more from us and guess what ? He felt the same way.

So, I say, what do you have to lose? He is already "just sex," so it's not like you really ruin much if he doesn't feel the same way. Go for it, girl!

I'll admit that I'm a little confused as to why some people don't like his statement "I know it's hard for you to not have feelings for me." Maybe you think he's stroking his ego? I think he's acknowledging that in booty call relationships, feelings are not supposed to get involved, but also that this is something new for her, and separating out the feelings is proving to be not so easy. Especially since he said it right after admitting, "I miss you", it could be just like Anna said. The door could be wide open for her to suggest something more!! Or not. Good risk:reward ratio tho'.

"She should be open to dating other guys while getting her booty on the side. Hey, maybe it'll make him jealous!"

I would have taken out the "Hey, maybe it'll make him jealous!" bit...hopefully she'd leave herself open to dating because it's good for her to not sit around mooning about him because she hasn't got the nerve to just talk to him, and not just as a means of trying to manipulate him.

Please. If she wants it to work then great - at the same time, if he's nothing more than her booty call what in the world would make her think that she's any more than that to him??? Give me a break. It is what it is.

i think there are only a certain amount of ppl who can handle a person being just a booty call after a couple of months. one of them is bound to want more. at least, that's how it usually works in my situations. so i move on before that can happen.

anyways .. it seems like you really like him, but where does he get off telling you about your feelings and how it must be so hard for you to hold them back? & from my point of view, 8 months is way too long for him to just want you as a booty call. he should have noticed your rarity a long time ago.

My booty call has become my man. I found out I was having feelings before he left town for a few months. I contacted him and told him how I felt and told me he felt the same. The next week he returned to town and we have been together as a couple since then. He is not only my man, he is my friend and my lover.