Daily Bedpost

For the Love of Blog: 05.09.08

Fri, 09 May 2008 15:30:00 -0500

A weekly round-up of our own favorite sex-related musings on the web:

• Our friends at Good Vibes are throwing a party to introduce the world's first tighty-whitey-wearing vibrating beaver.

• Babeland honors Mother's Day with a post about the difficulty of discussing sex with a Catholic mom.

• The ladies of DearSugar want to know: Would it be worse if he refused to kiss you, or refused to make eye contact during sex?

• Broadsheet honors Mildred Loving, the first woman to challenge Virginia's anti-interracial-marriage law.

• Radar reports live from the Long Island Mingling Mom "Top Mom" award ceremony, where the cougar's cougar, Dina Lohan, received the top accolade.

• Cory Silverberg of About.com chats with Regina Lynn about her new book, Sexier Sex.

• Naked Chicks on Post-Its is exactly what it sounds like.

From ElasticWaist.com: What's the Worst Thing Anyone's Said to You in Bed?

Fri, 09 May 2008 14:30:00 -0500

We went out to karaoke, one night, and to do karaoke, you usually have to be drunk. Unless you're a good singer, in which case being drunk is just a nice bonus. We were all very drunk, regardless of our level of singing talent, and talk turned, as talk usually does when you're very drunk and happy, to sex. It's easier, of course, to talk about sex when you're three sheets to the wind and can blame every embarrassing thing that comes out of your mouth on the highball glass filled to the top with beautiful vodka. The sex talk came around, after some meandering, to talking dirty in bed, which ended up becoming a conversation about the very worst thing anyone had ever said in bed to us.

I am very disappointed to report that I don't entirely remember my friends' stories. I know, however, that they were terrible, and painfully hilarious in the way that only something wretched and awful and embarrassing can be, in retrospect. I kind of wish I didn't remember my own story, because it still makes me cringe, 15 years later, when I think about it.
Read more at elasticwaist.com>>

Impertinent Question:Have You Ever Had Phone Sex?

Fri, 09 May 2008 12:30:00 -0500

Poll: A Bad Case of "The Batch"

Fri, 09 May 2008 10:30:00 -0500

Quizzes by Quibblo.com

Sugasm: The Way to Know What's Happening on Other Sex Blogs

Fri, 09 May 2008 10:00:00 -0500

The best of this week's blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #131? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you're all set.

This Week's Picks
Gross Spelling Errors Turn Me Off
"Here are a few other word issues that come up in sex writing that throw me off and drive me crazy."

L'Artiste
"I want time to sip my whisky, to drink you in as you unveil yourself, as you offer your body to my steady gaze."

Learning My Limits (Part 1)
"It hurts. It's gorgeous. "

Mr. Sugasm Himself
24-Months of AVN Online, $0

Editor's Choice
The Few, The Proud, The Pornless

More Sugasm
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See also: Fleshbot's Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

The Muppets Dare to Eat a Peach

Thu, 08 May 2008 15:00:00 -0500

Muchas gracias to The Frisky for highlighting this beautiful work of sheer genius by an art student at USF: a music video of clips from The Muppet Show synched to the musical stylings of raunch-mistress Peaches. We dare you not to laugh at Miss Piggy singing "Fuck the Pain Away," especially when she slows things down and takes it to the bridge. Still, we can't help but feel a little bit dirty at the tarnishing of such a great kids' classic. But we'll get over it.

From ProductFiend.com: Isabella Rossellini Is My New Idol

Thu, 08 May 2008 13:30:00 -0500

Photo via Splash

I was just watching videos from Isabella Rossellini's new Sundance project, "Green Porn," which is a beyond amazing, totally twisted series of film shorts about insects mating. Not only is it a brave, fascinating and whimsical project, but Isabella looks refreshingly unretouched and plastic surgery free. Of course, she's still one of the most legendary beauties around (with Ingrid Bergman's genes, how can you go wrong?). But it's so nice to see an older actress who doesn't look pulled and taut, or ridiculously unnaturally preserved (hello Madonna!) for her age.

More at ProductFiend.com>>

Euphemism of the Week: Erectile Insufficiency

Thu, 08 May 2008 12:00:00 -0500

An article in the Metro UK this week discusses men who just aren't that into sex--apparently there's been a 40 percent rise (poor word choice, perhaps) in men seeking counseling because they've lost interest in sleeping with their wives, girlfriends, or any woman for that matter. Experts blame it on stress, depression, long working hours, and PMS (oh wait, never mind). Seriously, though, Joe Average's libido is sagging, apparently, and everyone's got their knickers in a twist about it. But our favorite part of the article is when an expert explains the recent switch in men's sexual issues: "Men used to come to us with impotence-now known as erectile insufficiency--but Viagra has sorted some of that problem." Erectile insufficiency?! Next they'll be saying that when some skanky dude dry-humps you from behind on the dance floor and pokes you with that banana in his pocket, it's just erectile surplus.

Hold Me Tight: Couples on the Therapist's Couch

Thu, 08 May 2008 10:30:00 -0500

In Treatment on HBO didn't leave us with much faith that couples therapy can actually work. Even the therapist's therapist, Dianne Wiest, finally gave in and told Gabriel Byrne to go ahead and sleep with his hot'n'horny 30-year-old patient, despite the fact that he was married to the most awesome woman ever. And studies of couples therapy aren't any cheerier: the research out there indicates that two years after ending counseling, 25 percent of couples are worse off than when they started, and after four years, 38 percent are divorced.

For a sunnier perspective, we thought we'd chat with Dr. Sue Johnson, director of the Ottawa Couple and Family Institute and author of the new book Hold Me Tight, about an approach she helped develop called emotionally focused therapy. Studies have shown that even years after this kind of counseling, almost three-quarters of the couples are doing better-- it's one of the few forms of couples therapy with empirical data showing that it helps. Johnson was recently recruited by the U.S. army for a pilot program to help army couples deal with Iraq war-induced marital stress...

If You Were a Sex Toy, What Would You Be?

Wed, 07 May 2008 16:00:00 -0500

Quizzes by Quibblo.com

It's National Day to Prevent Teen Pregnancy

Wed, 07 May 2008 14:00:00 -0500

Today is the seventh annual National Day to Prevent Teen Pregnancy. It's organized by a non-profit, non-partisan group and directs teens to a website that offers a quiz to encourage them to think about what they would do in certain sexual situations. I'm all for creative ways (and websites) that drive home the very real possibilities of pregnancy and infection when you're sexually active. But I fear that the message of the day, "Sex has consequences," will be heard by teens as another "Just say no" command that has no bearing on their everyday lives. Truth is, the average age of first intercourse in the U.S. is about 17--and that's been essentially unchanged for the past decades (and quite possibly the past century). And about 25 percent of teens don't use any form of contraception the first time they have sex. So how do we balance acknowledging teens' sexuality with breaking through their feelings of invincibility? As a gyno who has many teen patients, I want them to know that I know they're having sex, and that I think it's okay (if they care what I think)...but they still need to protect themselves.

Did you use birth control or a condom the first time you had sex?

Impertinent Question:Which Celebrity Would You Have Sex With?

Wed, 07 May 2008 12:00:00 -0500

Poll: Who's Your Favorite Cougar Couple?

Wed, 07 May 2008 10:00:00 -0500

Photo via Splash

We can't explain why, but cougar hook-ups often make us feel kind of sad inside (which is not to say that we won't get hooked on the new cougar dating show), whereas long-term cougar relationships make us want to high-five the woman and then ask the couple to double-date. And who hasn't had a little relationship envy over Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins?

Quizzes by Quibblo.com

Who's Your Mommy: Top 10 Mother's Day Sex Tips

Tue, 06 May 2008 16:00:00 -0500

In honor of Mother's Day this Sunday--there's a reminder for you; you're welcome--we thought we'd give you our top ten sex tips that could have come from your mom. Almost.

1. Always keep your fingernails clean and well-trimmed...especially if you're planning on any handwork or sticking a pinkie where the sun don't shine.

2. If he's not the kind of man you could introduce to your mother, are you sure you trust him enough to let him tie you up?

3. Eat your Wheaties. Because a high-fiber diet will help keep things clean and tidy back there, which will make you more comfortable having all your various nooks and crannies explored.

4. If you don't have anything nice to say after sex, then don't say anything at all.

5. When I was your age, we cared about good spelling and grammar, even in lust letters...

Rx For Painful Sex

Tue, 06 May 2008 14:00:00 -0500

Last week I talked about my patients who think that they're "too small" to have comfortable intercourse. I post about this topic so much because I hear it from my patients every day in the office. To complete the none-too-happy painful-sex-post trilogy, here is the quick guide to self-diagnosis of soreness, and what you can do to feel better.

IF YOU FEEL:
Discomfort at the start of intercourse
IT MAY BE:
Insufficient lubrication or not enough arousal
YOU CAN TRY THIS AT HOME:
Foreplay--tell him it's doctor's orders--and a great-feeling lubricant

IF YOU FEEL:
Burning sensation with intercourse (even with lube)
IT MAY BE:
Vulvodynia--persistent pain in the vulva that can happen even when not having sex
YOU CAN TRY THIS AT HOME:
Topical anesthetic (by prescription) and sometimes oral medication

IF YOU FEEL:
Pain or pressure with certain positions
IT MAY BE:
A retroverted uterus--your cervix can get cranky when it's bumped into
YOU CAN TRY THIS AT HOME:
Positions where you control how deep he goes--you on top may be best

IF YOU FEEL:
Pain with deep penetration or thrusting
IT MAY BE:
Endometriosis or pelvic inflammatory disease
YOU CAN TRY THIS AT HOME:
Make an appointment with your gyno to go over possible treatments

Has sex ever been physically uncomfortable for you? What made it better?